In case it helps anyone, I have been using these sites:
http://rombergers.tripod.com/main.html Searching in PA
http://www.yahoogroups.com/group/pafind Warm, no-junk email list for search support, the list for Pennsylvania
I would avoid the Gretchen enterprises to stay with safe and sane people as well!
I'm reunited but still like to help others. Good luck everyone!
Pat